The beliefs that hold you back weren't born with you. They were absorbed — in childhood, before you had the capacity to question them. They became so deeply embedded that they feel like truth. But they're not. They're old programs running in your system.
This 5-step process, inspired by Dr. Gabor Maté's work in The Myth of Normal, will guide you to identify, understand, and begin to release the beliefs that no longer serve you. Use it as many times as you need — each pass reveals a deeper layer.
Recognize the belief for what it is — a belief, not a fact. It merged with your identity so long ago that it feels like you. But it's not you. Create distance between yourself and the thought. You are not your belief.
Trace the belief back to its origin. Where did you first learn this? What conditions created it? This isn't about blame — it's about understanding that the belief was a response to your environment, not evidence of who you are.
When you notice the belief taking hold — in your thoughts, your body, your reactions — pause. You know how it shows up. Catch it. Then consciously choose a different focus. This is a practice, not a fix. Each time you redirect, you weaken the old pattern.
What has this belief cost you? And what has it offered you — safety, approval, control? Be honest about both. The belief survived because it served a purpose. But ask yourself: are the benefits still worth the price?
Now, reconnect with who you actually are — beneath the belief. What are your truest values? What matters most? This is where you begin to build a new relationship with yourself, grounded in what's real rather than what was imposed.
Choose one limiting belief you want to work with. Move through each step slowly. Come back to this worksheet whenever a belief feels heavy — it works every time.
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